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                                          ‎Thursday, ‎September ‎19, ‎2013
This old man upset and more pissed off than ever at his own family members!
Since my last nerve ending hit last night after 9-PM, I decided to look up reasons as to why babies cry as suggested by my grandson’s mother, that has the brains of a ……….., but then said hell maybe I could just be wrong. Since I am one that loves to research as well as seek everything possible on a subject, I am sure I read as well as listened to so many books on why babies cry that I could cry with so many reasons that are given.
I can only judge by what I notice as to certain times as well as hours and there never the same, but the reasons are always different just as in all the books and tapes I listened to as from five to dozens of reasons. Then of course i also had my own which also were backed up in all those readings as well as tapes I listened to for the past five hours. Yes, I put a lot of time into a subject and still do even after I am sure I know enough to speak on that subject at lease for this story that I am sending around the world.
I first asked mother as well as father if they have made contact with the services as instructed to do so weeks ago. We’ll still waiting. That blows my mind were waiting. To me, waiting means No, were to lazy, we did our part, and whatever else excuses are used. In my day we had to hand wash diapers, then pre wash them for re usable for next diaper change. There was no such thing as throw always or a blue line appearing that it is time to change a baby. As well as even my wife breast fed and after so much time also bottle fed as well as when the doctor said it’s time to try baby jars of solids (food for baby’s). Questioning my grand son is always a task in itself to get a reply this old man can understand. But, then there are times I don’t need to question as he clams up as does his baby’s mother, and I know what the truth is.
Communication between the both of them is really depressing when getting a truthful answer from either one of them. They both tell different stories and that to me is plain lying. Love is more childish than  true love at this point of time, even if they both seem to care for my grand son. Love is something that I am still out on as to if puppy or true or house playing. Only three that exist unless thinking it’s just because they are the first and want to always know that they are and always will be. In this day and age I even question that as being true at times.
But, learned that computers are the norm in this day and age and waiting for a reply is not only last but plain stupid on parts of bring in another life. Doctor appointments must be made at all times and kept, and if not kept made for the following day or as soon as opening is there. We have to pay, so what! Kid’s life and care more important than money or waiting because of not hearing. Make and keep those appointments no matter what!
If I am asked for something I am able to shut off my game or speaking or listening in order to do a task for my great grandson at the request of his dad. even HAD TO PROVE THIS POINT LAST NIGHT! I said did you notice I quit my game as soon as you asked me for a ride at 9-PM to go see about a job that is questionable even if gas is low to learn that alternatives motives were involved between my grandson and his wife. I knew of course in advance as another member of the family came in and asked if he could travel to which I replied I heard nothing to those details. Of course later that evening the lies flow from the mouths of mom as well as dad. I said you two need to keep in contact with one another more than screwing and fucking as if that is all your able to think of. Being open and honest with each other for yours son’s sake at lease.
They seem to be playing games more than acting like parents. Then as soon as I pull out of the driveway the baby starts to cry and doesn’t stop until return to home except for when he is taken by father and shown the world which showed me was the kids wanting to see. But, as always what does this old man know as told to read myself. Well, if contact as well as appointments not made then calling as to ,your letter as well as using the computer to get off those dam games and television and learn to take care of business then this old man will explode and your not going to like it! Get off your damn lazy asses and do your jobs. You wanted to act like dogs and have a pup which any animal can do. But, in this family you do what is right for your kid. DO IT! Stop this bullshit of waiting and waiting because games and television and sleeping are more important.
Your going to find that things that are important are what your not doing! It’s hard on an old man to drive with night blindness because you want money for whatever and not even plan as to where to get it after running around to different places. Planning is what I always say. Now, for not planning you missed that meeting of the minds and came back home as you left with NOTHING! All because you don’t plan as well as think things out as to how to do it and where it is. You noticed I had time to stop get my dinner as well as came home with it even if you two could not do as I ask PLAN. I also no longer have you in my plans after all you waste my gas as well as time and always come back as you left with nothing. Today I am sure you will make the connection on time after seeing that this old man was right again. Get off those damn games, television and sleeping all day and get busy as I am busy all day myself and need to be in order to make things work out for all of us, if not just for myself.
Another story shows the cares of others with no planning, but 50 -100 babies dead (found) yearly because of no planning. Sorry state this world is in.
Dead baby found in cardboard box & Is there a reason for babies to cry all the time?
Parenting a constantly irritable baby is one of the most stressful challenges a new parent can face. What are you supposed to do when your infant is crying inconsolably at 3 a.m. and nothing seems to soothe him or her for more than a few minutes? Friends may tell you your baby is “colicky.” You don’t care what it’s called, as long as there’s a way to fix it. Is there? Read on.

What Is Colic?

The definition of colic used by researchers is: “A healthy, well-fed infant who cries for more than three hours per day, for more than three days per week, for more than three weeks.”

Unfortunately, colic is not a well-understood condition. Here’s what is known:

Colic usually starts at about 2 weeks of age in a full-term infant (or later in a premature infant).
Colic almost always goes away by 3 or 4 months of age.
There is no difference in the prevalence of colic for boys and girls, whether you breastfeed or bottle feed, and whether the baby is first born or not.
Scientific studies have shown that children who had colic are no different in terms of personality, mental health, intelligence, etc., than children who never had colic.

What Causes Colic?

Despite many scientific studies, no single common cause for colic has been found. The fussiness of colic has many different causes, and that’s why there is no one way to help it.

Some theories of the cause of colic include:

Digestive woes, perhaps due to intolerance of cow’s milk protein or lactose
Re-flux (heartburn due to stomach acid and milk flowing back into the esophagus)
An immature digestive system in which the intestinal muscles are often in spasm
Air (gas) in the intestinal tract
Increased hormone levels that cause stomachaches or a fussy mood
Hypersensitivity to a stimulation in the environment (sound, light, etc.)
An intense temperament in the newborn period
An immature nervous system
Take note that all of these are only hypotheses, and keep in mind that you are not to blame for your baby’s fussiness.

First Steps to Address Colic in Your Baby

Before looking to treat your baby’s “colic,” make sure he or she is thoroughly examined by her pediatrician to check for a medical reason for the crying and fussiness.

Some of the possible medical reasons for irritability in an infant include:

an infection (for example: an ear or urinary infection)
evidence of re flux or gastrointestinal distress
pressure or inflammation of the brain and nervous system
an eye problem (for example: a scratch or increased pressure)
an abnormality of the rhythm of the heart
a bone fracture
a hernia
a hair wrapped around a finger or toe

Infant found dead in Roseville park buried in quiet ceremony
She was curled on her side, with a full head of dark hair and perfectly formed fingers and toes.

Why, Mike Monroe and Gerald Edwards wondered, would someone have left a newborn outdoors, dead inside a cardboard box amid a bramble of wild blackberries?

The two men, Roseville city workers who found the baby’s body on a warm July morning during a trash sweep in Saugstad Park, may never know the circumstances of the child’s birth and death. But they were so moved by her situation that they traveled on Wednesday morning to Auburn’s public cemetery, where a Placer County chaplain helped lay the mystery child to rest in a grassy patch of land reserved especially for babies.

Monroe and Edwards were among about two dozen people, many with no connection to the infant, who gathered around a tiny white casket draped with a spray of fresh flowers to pay their respects. Some carried small bouquets. One held a teddy bear.

“Father, she’s in your arms,” said Deputy Senior Chaplain Jim Milne, standing in dappled sunshine, a light breeze blowing through towering pines. He prayed for the baby, informally named Rosie by community members who learned of her story, and for her parents. “Help them through their guilt, their pain,” he said.

“Who is the mom?” he asked. “What is going on in her life?”

They are questions that police continue to ask as they investigate how “Baby Rosie” wound up bundled inside trash bags in a sealed Huggies box on the Monday after a long Fourth of July weekend. Her cause of death is still pending. No one has stepped forward to claim her.

Ryan Bal, a Roseville police detective, was among those who came to Wednesday’s service, partly in hopes of gathering clues.

“We would like the mother to come forward and talk with us,” Bal said. “It might offer some closure, so that she doesn’t have to worry or wonder whether someone will be knocking on her door in the future.”

If an autopsy concludes the baby was alive when she was born, the mother could be criminally charged, Bal said. If the child was stillborn, he said, charges are unlikely.

Jennifer Hodder, a Roseville resident and mother of a young daughter, decided to attend the baby’s service after reading news accounts of the case. She has asked herself what went through the mother’s mind after the birth.

“Maybe she was scared,” said Hodder, who arrived at the service clutching a small stuffed giraffe. “I don’t know. I just felt like I had to be here. I wanted to come and stand in today as this baby’s mom.”

Laurie Nelson of Auburn said she invited friends to join her in the cemetery Wednesday, but everyone was too busy. She came anyway, wanting to bear witness to an abandoned child’s burial.

“I just think it’s so important that someone is here to represent her,” Nelson said. “This morning, I went to my garden and found the best roses I could find.” She placed a small bundle of them next to the baby’s graveside.

Cases like Baby Rosie’s gnaw at Victor Hipolito Jr. They are far more common, he said, than people might believe. Hipolito is an organizer of a group, new to the Sacramento area, that works with county governments to help bury abandoned and unidentified babies. On Saturday, Hipolito and the nonprofit Garden of Innocence group will lay to rest 20 infants at a Sacramento cemetery, after gathering their remains from coroner offices around the region.

The group, launched in San Diego in 1998, buries 50 to 100 such children each year at five “gardens,” serving 25 counties across the state, said founder Elissa Davey. Garden of Innocence also is branching out nationwide.

Some of the babies claimed by the group are stillborn and abandoned at hospitals, she said. Others were found in trash bins or along roadways. Rather than allow them to be cremated and buried anonymously in pauper’s graves, as many counties do after varying periods of time, the group names each child and gives each a memorial service, with a handmade urn and blanket, Beanie Babies toys and a poetry reading.

“Our goal is to make sure no child is put into an unmarked potter’s grave, forgotten and unloved,” Hipolito said.

By the time the group learned about Baby Rosie, Dennis Watt, chief deputy coroner in Placer County, already had made plans for a memorial service. Her casket was donated, as was the white dress in which she was buried. Officials are seeking donations for a headstone.

Monroe and Edwards, the Roseville city workers, came upon the infant’s body during a cleanup assignment in the early morning hours of July 8 at Saugstad Park, an area frequented by both re creationists and homeless campers. They expected to haul out old blankets, discarded clothing, empty beer cans and chip packages, things they toss into their truck and take to the dump.

As they were working alongside the bike trail, they spotted a brightly colored Huggies box, “sitting upright and taped nice and tight,” Monroe recalled. He lifted it. It was heavy, and its contents smelled rancid.

“My first thought was dirty diapers,” said Edwards.

Monroe used a key to cut through the tape. Inside the first box, he found a smaller Huggies box, also sealed tightly. That box held an object wrapped in black garbage bags.

“I looked closer, and I saw little fingers and feet,” Edwards said. “The baby had dark brown hair.”

He called 911, and soon officers were on the scene, taking fingerprints, documenting footprints, snapping pictures. Later, someone from the coroner’s office placed the baby in a van and drove away.

The next day, both men talked to counselors about what they had discovered.

“We find a lot of things out there,” said Monroe. “There are raccoon s, dogs, feral cats. But nothing like this. Never a baby.”

On Wednesday, the men stood silently in their light blue City of Roseville work shirts, heads bowed and sunglasses shielding their eyes, as the chaplain concluded his remarks and invited those gathered to speak. Only one person raised her hand.

Ingrid Croissant-Huber stepped forward, then dropped to her knees beside Baby Rosie’s coffin.

“Dear little baby,” the Roseville woman said, tears glistening in her eyes. “God wants you back.

“I have four wonderful daughters,” she said in the gentlest of voices. “Now I have five. Now I have you.”

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